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We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In "Attached," Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

*Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back

*Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

*Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


Amir Levine, M.D. is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and for the past few years Amir has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia under the mentorship of Nobel Prize Laureate Eric Kandel. Amir also has a passion for working with patients and it...

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  • 猜猜我的头像
    作为能量学的忠实信徒,我觉得作者对三种依恋类型的categorical分类太确切:虽然提到了安全型人在不同的亲密关系中可以展现出焦虑型和回避型的特质,但是对焦虑型和回避型的讨论并没有提及这一点。哪怕在我个人的经历中,人的依恋类型并不是由于大脑化学物质天生存在的,而是在不同的关系和不同的人相处中来回转变。安全性人面对过于粘人烦人的人也会变成回避型,回避型面对求之不得能量更高的回避型自然变成焦虑型。总之还是提升自己增加吸引力,不要当招人讨厌,相信人类喜欢追逐趋利避害喜欢占便宜的动物本能比较靠谱。2020-07-21
  • Lucia
    yea... definitely an avoidant :/ puppy on the other hand, is so secure. learn from him.2016-07-07
  • 愚公移书
    心理类书籍一大作用便是帮助人们了解自己了解他人,很多时候问题都在于并不理解对方的行为、出发点、心理过程,多一份理解或许就是多一份包容的可能,倒也并不一定就是为了解决问题。况且很多时候问题其实就只是:你不理解我我不理解你,不是我不想理解你而是我不知道怎么用我自己的方式角度来理解你。2014-07-30

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